Wednesday, December 18, 2013

Stop thinking about Phil Robertson...and let me love you.

As my Facebook newsfeed is erupting with statuses about Phil Robertson's forced hiatus from his own reality show due to anti-gay comments in a GQ article, I can't help but come back to several core thoughts.

It's a reality show about openly Christian southerners, yet you're surprised by his beliefs and want to censor him? Remind yourself of the definition of the word reality.

It's honestly kind of annoying to go into Walmart and see Duck Dynasty on literally everything - eye glasses, pillows, dishes, Christmas ornaments, you name it! Their values and lifestyle reflect what a lot of Southerners consider to be their own, but chill the hell out with the overglorification of this family. They are not to be made idols simply because they put their faith on TV. Respect them, like them, but don't lay your head on a Si pillow at night. That is too ridiculous.

Also, while I think it's dumb for A&E to pull one of the key figures in an extremely popular show, I'm not pissed about it. Fan opinions will be heard, and I predict that A&E will reinstate the patriarch of the family into the show in a dramatic, media-heavy way, and all will be right with the world. He's already made a statement to the press that he in no way hates LGBT people, but that his comments come from his personal faith. It may not be an apology for what he said, and he doesn't owe one. He's entitled to believe whatever he desires. It is, however, sort of a 'don't hate the player, hate the game' response.

This is fine, because I'm glad he is abiding by my two core beliefs when it comes to faith.

Love God.
Love People.

Everything else important will stem from these two. If it doesn't, it probably wasn't important.

I'm going to step on some toes now, and I like to wear heels, so it will probably hurt. 

I'm totally fine with gay relationships and marriages. I'm fine with families lead by gay parents. 

This isn't just an attempt to follow the latest issues and come out on the more acceptable side. This isn't because I just finished season 1 of The Fosters on Netflix. This is something I feel deep in my heart. Yes, there are several locations in the Bible that condemn homosexuality, but I firmly believe that as Christians, we aren't doing anyone any good when it comes to eternity if we say, "I don't even know you, but the Bible says this, so you need to change." 

It's my job to meet you where you are and love you. 

Let me say that again.

It's my job to LOVE YOU. 

So I will. 

If loving you looks like honoring your relationship the way you'd like me to, that's what I'll do. 
If loving you looks like standing up for you, that's what I'll do. 
You're freaking right that loving you looks like praying for you, and you know I will. 

No, you won't see me picketing, petitioning, or calling my Congressmen, but you will see me treat you like a person. That's my main problem here. People argue that allowing gay marriage will destroy the sanctity of marriage, yet you don't see too many marriages that uphold every biblical example. 

We accept divorce as a cultural norm. We laugh at Brittney Spears having a 55 hour marriage. 

Like I said before, my faith stems from 2 things. If I love you like I should and live my life as an example, I don't need Hell, fire, and brimstone to show you the way. They will know we are Christians by our love. 

I love you and I will pray for you to have a relationship with God, whatever that looks like.
He will be the judge. That's not my job. 
I've already told you what my job is, so give me the opportunity to do it.